This past Wednesday night, Pastor Daniel gave a great message from Ecclesiastes 4:7-12 about companionship and why it is so important for us as Christians to have it (listen to it here).
First of all, we learned that God is a relational being—he exists in an eternal relationship within the Trinity: the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Because we were made in God’s image, we are meant to exist in relationships too.
A companion is someone who we can share life with and who will be there for us. When we first hear the word “companion,” we often think of a husband or a wife, but companions come more often in the form of friends—the people we like to be around.
Ecclesiastes 4 gives us several benefits to having companions. We see that a companion:
- Gives you someone to share life with (vv. 7-8). Life is more enjoyable when you have someone there to share it with
- Makes you more productive (v. 9). You are able to be exponentially more productive with someone there to help you
- Uplifts you (v. 10) . “Woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up.” Whether this is physically or spiritually, companions can pull us out of the low places we fall into.
- Sustains you (v. 11) . A companion can help you get through the tough seasons of life (spiritually, physically, emotionally, financially, etc.).
- Protects you (v. 12). Friendship produces genuine care and concern, forming a strong bond that will help in time of need.
Maybe you realize that you don’t have any companions in your life, but you want to. The question is, are you actively, intentionally, purposefully seeking out companionship? How exactly do you do that? Here are few practical ways to help build friendships:
- Be friendly
- Be faithful
- Be social
- Be focused on others
If you do have companions in your life, it’s very easy to ruin friendships; just do the opposite of the above list. Doing any of these things is sure to drive your friends away and keep you from gaining any more:
- Be unfriendly
- Be unfaithful
- Be anti-social
- Be self-centered
Companions are important, but the most important companion you can have is the one whom the Bible says “sticks closer than a brother.” And that is Jesus. He will be with you in every situation, help you, uplift you when you fall, sustain you, and protect you better than any friend on earth could ever do. As he said, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lays down his life for his friends,” and Jesus did just that for us.
Don’t forget that this week in Connect Groups we will be talking about the chapter on Friendship in our Unashamed Curriculum.