In chapter 6 of Lies Young Women Believe, we read about “Lies About Myself” and how two of the most common lies young women believe are that physical beauty determines your value and worth, and that you have to perform in order to be loved and accepted by others.
To counter these lies, we saw the truth from God’s Word:
- Beautiful girls are worth more
- Physical beauty is only temporary (Proverbs 31:30; 1 Peter 3:3-5)
- The beauty that matters to God is on the inside (1 Timothy 2:9-10)
- What you believe about beauty is determined by where you look (1 Peter 3:3-4)
- I have to perform to be loved and accepted
- Your value is not determined by what you do, but by how God views you (Ephesians 1:4; Psalm 139:14; 1 John 4:9; Romans 8:38-39)
- The notion that you can do something to earn love and have value is heretical (Ephesians 2:9; Romans 11:6)
- Your good works are to glorify God, not yourself (1 Corinthians 10:31; James 2:12-18)
When these lies are believed and embraced, many harmful feelings follow due to the need to measure-up to the society’s unrealistic standards placed upon young women. It affects you personally, and it affects your relationship with others—and most importantly, with God. When you believe that your value and acceptance before God is based on something that you do—that you have to look or act a certain way, or perform well—your relationship with God will suffer. Such lies change acceptance and love from something that God freely gives to something that you must earn; it replaces God’s work with your works.
Our society says that you are valued and accepted by your looks and your works, but Scripture says that you are valued and accepted by looking to Jesus and trusting in His work—His work on the cross for your salvation. Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not as a result of works, so that no one may boast.” You are accepted and loved as a child of God because He has given you His grace—His undeserved favor—as a free gift. This is what caused John to write, “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are” (1 John 3:1a).
So ladies, don’t let the enemy deceive you with his lies. Realize that the lie about “I” distorts reality, destroys emotionally, and damages you spiritually. Recognize that your true identity is found in Christ, not in looks or works. And remember that you are loved and accepted by your heavenly Father because of His performance, and therefore your value and worth are not determined by what you do or what you look like, but by your spiritual union with God through Christ, for you are a daughter of the King.