One of the major difficulties in preaching sermons is not trying to figure out what to say, instead, it’s knowing what not to say because of time constraints. This gets really hard when the things that are left out are so good you wish you had more time to add it in. Fortunately, blog sites like this [activatehighschool.com], and other forms of social media, provide the extra time and space for the conversation to continue.
Last week, we learned about Friendship in our Fleet series. In the sermon we learned about the uniqueness of friendship in comparison to the other human connections we encounter. We also looked at four different forms of friendships that are common to our experience in life. The concluding thought forced all of us to come to grips with the sobering truth that no one is a perfect friend. However, fortunate for us, we have a Savior who calls us friends and loves us like no one ever could. We invite you to click on the media tab and listen to the podcast of the sermon titled “Friendship” and continue to follow along in this Fleet series.
Below is a bullet point list of thoughts on friendship that were not explicitly put in the sermon because time didn’t allow. I hope that as you read over them you will be both challenged and encouraged in this amazing gift of friendship. These quotes were taken from: Conformed to His Image by K. Boa, Pg. 235-236.
- Relatively few of us experience true friendship. There is a spectrum of intimacy that ranges from acquaintances to companionship to untested friendship to the intimacy of established friendship (tested by time and fire). What many people call friends are more likely to be acquaintances or companions.
- It requires and intentional investment of valuable time and energy to cultivate and maintain special friendships.
- C.S. Lewis in The Four Loves observes that friendship is the least natural of human loves, since it is not driven by instinct, necessity, or survival value. In addition, true friendship is the least jealous of the loves, and it is essentially free from the need to be needed.
- Quality friendships are characterized by trust, openness, mutual respect, honesty, and self-disclosure. There is no need for pretense in a real friendship; you can dare to be yourself. A friend accepts and understands you, and this includes your faults as well as your strengths.
- Friendship is founded on sharing a basic consensus of beliefs; it is built on caring about the same truth.
- True friendship is revealed in times of crisis. Times of adversity and distress test the reality of friendship (Prov. 27:10; 17:17).
- The highest level of friendship includes the dynamic of covenant and commitment. In this covenant relationship, two people agree to walk together for life in trust and loyalty (Prov. 18:24; Eccl. 4:9-12)
- Spiritual friends believe in each other, build into one another’s lives, and encourage each other to grow in their relationship with God. They are faithful, and they are willing to ask tough questions to keep one another honest. They sharpen (Prov. 27:17), counsel (Prov. 27:9), and encourage one another (Heb. 3:13).
- A real friend rebukes when necessary and is candid and truthful (Prov. 17:10; 18:24; 27:6).
- Lasting friendships keep confidences (Prov. 17:9), listen attentively and empathetically (Prov. 18:13), and do not seek to control or manipulate